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    Why It Is Better to Stay in a Bad Marriage Then Get a Divorce

    Renowned sex therapist shares her take on these startling new study findings


    New research from The Marriage Foundation has showed that couples who stay married during a rough patch in their marriage reported being happy in their relationship years down the line. In other words, working through the difficulty rather than ending the marriage led to happiness down the road for both partners.

    Dr. Laura Berman, nationally recognized sex therapist, television personality, radio host and New York Times bestselling author, says, “The researchers found that the majority of couples who went through an unhappy stage felt fulfilled in their marriage a decade later. They discovered that 70% of couples stayed together despite feeling unhappy, and…ten years later, 68% of these couples felt happy in their relationship.”

    What does this mean for couples? Should you stay in a marriage even if you are unhappy, hoping that the future will bring brighter days?

    Dr. Berman, author of new book Quantum Love hesitates to offer such advice.

    “It’s important to examine the study findings closely,” she says. “Each of the couples studied had just welcomed a newborn baby into their family. A new baby can put incredible stress on a marriage, but as the child grows and matures, the parents get more sleep, more time together, and they feel more confident in their new roles. However, not all relationship issues can be solved with the passing of time. If, for example, the main bone of contention in your marriage is infidelity, financial strain, poor communication or another common issue, then the problem won’t be resolved with time and more sleep.”

    So, what is the right answer for couples going through a tough time? Is it better to stay in an unhappy marriage or head for the door?

    “Previous research shows that women report higher levels of happiness after getting a divorce, and there is a low incidence of women saying that they regret breaking up. However, men tend to be less happy after their divorce, and they even turn to unhealthy behaviors like gaining weight and getting less sleep. We know that being married is good for men’s health, and not as beneficial for women’s health (single women report better health and happiness than married women) so this could be part of the issue.

    “For me, this points to a rarely-discussed but important problem: Women are unhappy when they don’t prioritize their own needs, and their health suffers as well. When married, they caretake their spouse like another child, and they often don’t focus on their own needs until they get a divorce and are forced to spend time alone and facing their own issues.”

    To this end, Dr. Berman doesn’t believe divorce is necessarily the answer, but rather honest communication about equal expectations and support.

    “Staying in a bad marriage is a bad idea, but that doesn’t mean you have to get a divorce,” she says. “Instead, you can work with your partner to improve your marriage so that you both get your needs met. Women, stop trying to do it all, and let your partner step up and help you. It can do wonders for your marriage and your sex life. In fact, another recent study found that one of the best predictors for a middle-aged woman’s sex life is how much sleep she gets. In other words, more zzz’s equal more O’s!”

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    4 Simple Tips To Help Transform Men Into Better Husbands In 2017


    The romance doesn’t drain out of a relationship overnight.

    It’s a slow trickle over time.

    “Counselors will tell you that the leaks in a marriage or love relationship are a hazard of daily life,” says Drexel Gilbert, author of 30 Days to Better Love: A Guide for Men (www.drexelgilbert.com).

    “Careers, children, bills and a variety of daily responsibilities add to the problem, one drip at a time.”

    But, she says, men who haven’t given as much attention to the relationship as they should can reignite the romance through simple and inexpensive actions.

    “You don’t have to plan a European getaway to let your wife know how special she is to you,” Gilbert says.

    Instead, she suggests:

  • Give her flowers every day for a month. Women love to receive flowers even if some of them insist they don’t, Gilbert says. It needn’t always be a bouquet. It can be a single flower. It can be a flower picked from your own garden. “In a pinch, it can even be a daisy you draw on a piece of paper and leave with a sweet note on the kitchen counter,” Gilbert says.


  • Sit beside her. If you’re sitting in an easy chair while your wife is on the sofa it’s time to make a move, Gilbert says. Sit beside her as you watch television, entertain guests, read, talk or listen to music. “A psychologist once told me that a couple’s physical distance implies the level of their emotional distance,” she says. “He also said that couples who routinely sit beside each other are likely to be more affectionate in their relationship.”


  • Talk to her. This one is exceptionally easy – or at least should be in theory. In reality, while a lot of talking goes on in relationships, it’s often about the kids, bills, chores, careers or car repairs. Gilbert suggests making a conscious effort to have more meaningful conversations. Watch a movie together and talk about why you did or didn’t like it. After church, talk about the sermon and how it might apply to your lives. As you drive down the road, turn off the radio and ask her opinion about something that’s important to you. “And the second part of that is really listen to what she has to say,” Gilbert says.


  • Be a gentleman. “Somewhere along the way in the struggle for equality and the battle for respect in the workplace, we forgot that it’s still all right for men to be courteous to women,” Gilbert says. Open the car door for her. Hold her chair at the restaurant. Stand up when she goes to the ladies’ room and stand up again when she comes back. Hold the umbrella over her head even if it means you get wet.


  • “Putting the romance back into a relationship is not rocket science, but it does take effort,” Gilbert says. “You’ve got to try. If you’re planning any New Year’s resolutions, this would be the perfect one.”

    About Drexel Gilbert
    Drexel Gilbert, author of 30 Days to Better Love: A Guide for Men (www.drexelgilbert.com), has more than 30 years of experience working as a journalist, TV news anchor, newsroom manager and public speaker. She also is author of five children’s books. She and her husband, Wesley, live in Pensacola, Fla.

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    Founder Dr. David Olson Transitions to Emeritus Status; PREPARE/ENRICH Celebrates Successful 2016 and Announces Ambitious 2017 Roadmap Under New Ownership


    ST. PAUL, Minn., Dec. 13, 2016 /PRNewswire/ -- After 40+ years of research and innovation, PREPARE/ENRICH announced its founder, Dr. David Olson, has transitioned into emeritus status. Dr. Olson continues to provide strategic consulting related to the next phase of growth for PREPARE/ENRICH.

    2016 is another record year with over tens of thousands of couples benefiting from the expert care of Facilitators and thousands of counselors, clergy, and churches joining the PREPARE/ENRICH family. The Parenting Version, introduced in 2014, leverages the real-time customized assessment capability introduced in 2008 and has achieved widespread adoption with over 100% growth relative to 2015 and has increased parenting satisfaction for thousands of families.

    Anticipation for 2017 is high, with a significantly larger team prepared to implement an ambitious roadmap, including new assessment versions and resources, as well as a refreshed website launching in early 2017. Additional momentum is provided by new positioning of the company under the umbrella of not-for-profit membership organization, Thrivent Financial, whose mission is to help Christians be wise with money and live generously. Bill Johnson, President of PREPARE/ENRICH commented, "In acquiring PREPARE/ENRICH, Thrivent has acknowledged the tension money can create in relationships and is demonstrating their commitment to continuing and extending PREPARE/ENRICH's mission to 'build strong marriages and healthy relationships.'"

    Legacy of David and Karen Olson

    Motivated to address increasing divorce rates, Dr. Olson and his wife Karen launched PREPARE, Inc. in 1980. Its flagship assessment, PREPARE, provided counselors, clergy, and other professionals with a tool to increase effectiveness of premarital counseling. The PREPARE assessment was the first of its kind to deliver insights into a couple's strength and growth areas, personality dynamics, and family of origin. As a pioneer in the field of family science at the University of Minnesota, Dr. Olson enabled professionals to connect theory and practice by developing the Circumplex Model and its accompanying measure, Family Adaptability and Cohesion Scales (FACES). FACES has provided the basis for thousands of research studies, and served as the foundation for what became the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment.

    The PREPARE assessment was quickly adopted by thousands of counselors, clergy, and other professionals as it became the global standard for marriage preparation. In 1981, the ENRICH assessment was introduced as a version of PREPARE intended for married couples. Throughout the next decade additional assessments were developed for blended/step-family premarital couples, cohabitating premarital couples, and older adult married couples. Originally administered using paper/pencil, the assessments were made available online in 2004. In 2008, the highly anticipated PREPARE/ENRICH Customized Version was released, which employs sophisticated real-time logic to select one of over 1,500 combinations of scales for each couple based on factors including relationship status, past relationships, age, parenting status, and faith perspective.

    Propagating primarily through word of mouth, PREPARE/ENRICH has transformed into a global family of people who care passionately about strengthening relationships and marriage. By the numbers:

  • 110,000+ PREPARE/ENRICH Facilitators trained and operating in over 70 countries


  • 4,000,000+ couples have gained insight into their relationships


  • 30,000+ churches and 25,000+ counseling practices leveraging the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment and skill-building content


  • Translation into 12 languages: Spanish, French, German, Korean, Mandarin, Russian, Italian, Japanese, Portuguese, Romanian, Turkish, and Hungarian


  • About PREPARE/ENRICH
    PREPARE/ENRICH is the leading relationship inventory and skill-building program used by clergy and professional counselors nationally and internationally. Live workshops and online training teach proficiency in the PREPARE/ENRICH program and certifies Facilitators to administer the assessment, interpret reports, and give feedback using skill building exercises. PREPARE/ENRICH, LLC is based in Roseville, Minnesota, with Facilitators throughout the United States and around the world.

    Contact Information
    Laura Waldvogel
    Manager of Product and Platform
    137635@email4pr.com
    651-259-2432
    www.prepare-enrich.com

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    WIFEY 101: Everything I Got Wrong After Finding Mr. Right


    He had no idea his life would change so significantly.

    Jamie Otis agreed to a scientifically arranged, legally binding, blind marriage that was documented on national television and broadcast all over the world. Now she has written about her experiences in life and love in her debut memoir, WIFEY 101: Everything I Got Wrong After Finding Mr. Right (June 2016).

    When Jamie Otis agreed to be placed in a scientifically arranged marriage on TV's most controversial and groundbreaking reality show, Married At First Sight, she knew that saying "I do" to Doug Hehner, a complete stranger, was a huge risk. What she didn't know was how to be a wife! Through trial and error -- and more ups and downs than a roller coaster -- Jamie learned to quickly navigate the universal problems all newlywed couples face, from leaving the toilet seat up to winning over the in-laws. Throughout her first year of marriage her traumatic past and unresolved issues with an ex-boyfriend threatened to derail the healthiest relationship she'd ever been in. In her shocking, unflinching and hilarious memoir, WIFEY 101: Everything I Got Wrong After Finding Mr. Right, Jamie fumbles her way through the newlywed game and lives to tell the tale. She also provides an insiders view of life on reality tv and what really goes on behind the scenes of some of the hottest shows on network television.

    Jamie Otis was just 19 years old and a freshman in college when she begins raising her three younger siblings. She grew up with an absent father, an abusive step father and a mom who killed the pain with drugs. Before Jamie was able to legally drink a glass of wine, she was granted custody of her little sisters. Balancing a part-time waitressing job, full-time nursing school on top of being the legal guardian of her siblings left no time for Jamie to deal with issues of trust, abandonment and neglect. However, Jamie healed while helping others. She became a certified foster parent and began caring for children who were in similar circumstances.

    Known best for her awkward attempts at finding love, Jamie appeared on season 16 of The Bachelor and season 3 of The Bachelor Pad. Soon after, she allowed four professionals to find her 'perfect' match and said 'I do' to a perfect stranger on Married At First Sight. Almost instantaneously the baggage from Jamie's past came out full force as she began navigating life as a new wife. Fast forward through many ups and downs to two years later: Jamie Otis is still happily married to her 'stranger' husband, Douglas Hehner.

    Jamie Otis is a registered nurse, TV host (Married At First Sight: Unfiltered), jewelry designer (Jamie Otis Jewelry) and author (Wifey 101: Everything I Got Wrong After Finding Mr. Right). She's appeared on Dr. Drew, Dr. Oz, The View, Good Morning America, Kathie Lee and Hoda, and Entertainment Tonight.

    https://www.amazon.com/Wifey-101-Everything-Wrong-Finding-ebook/dp/B01CPSPRSO


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    What We Learn from The Death of a Spouse and How to Find Love Again

    By Dennis Freed


    He had no idea his life would change so significantly.

    For 31 years, Dennis and Hope Freed had a fulfilling marriage. They raised a family, built a home, and shared their dreams with one another and their two sons.

    The Death of a Spouse



    Then Hope got cancer, and their lives changed drastically overnight. She fought a long brave battle, and went through over 250 chemotherapy treatments, but on April 7, 2012, on an evening that heralded Passover in the United States and Easter in Israel, she died.

    Dennis Freed’s beloved wife and best-trusted friend had gone, leaving him alone to figure out a future he’d never imagined. For the first year, he sorted through what society expected of a long-term caregiver and widower. Eventually, Dennis emerged from mourning, his heart ready for life’s next chapter. Is there love after marriage?

    In Love, Loss and Awakening, Dennis Freed tells the story of how he began to go out with women again. He shares the reality of dating at age 50-plus—how he endured the awkward and hilarious encounters and embarrassments a man experiences when he hasn’t been on a date with a new woman for decades. Dennis’s book chronicles how one finds love after the death of a spouse. He describes his courageous and uplifting journey through sorrow, his search for new love, and his rediscovery of love and happiness.

    Drawing upon the wisdom and personal experiences he acquired dating middle-aged women in all the wrong places, Freed takes the mystery out of the many lessons he learned. Dennis found out that as a widow or widower you can find love again, but it’s a difficult road. Love isn’t unique to the person you loved first. That love never fades, but your heart has room for more. You can get love back in your life. Your new love becomes a special love in its own right.

    Here are just a few of the valuable insights:

    Hole Heart/ Whole Heart
    When you lose your best, most trusted friend, the hardships just begin. You are now alone. Your whole heart collapses to half its size. It transforms into a Hole Heart. The process of resurrecting it to wholeness is like Lego construction, built one little brick at a time. At first, bricks of varying shapes and sizes are sorted through and meticulously placed. Slowly they assume the weight and shape of your newly imagined Whole Heart.

    Learn How to Be Physical, Affectionate, and Intimate
    You spent thirty-plus years kissing no one but your spouse. If you spend your time worrying about the “what if” instead of enjoying the right now, it will rob you of your joy today. Sometimes you just have to learn something new, like all the kissing pleasures one never experienced. It’s not such a bad idea. Understand that it takes time and practice, and that each person you meet is unique. You’ll make hurtful intimacy mistakes just like a teenager. You’ll make stupid and inconsiderate mistakes. It’s a fact. Practice and learn so that when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready.

    A Hundred Bottles of Beer on the Wall
    You are going to date a lot of people. It is okay to be sad, mad, depressed, empty, lost after a date that isn’t perfect. Embrace the journey! Feel! Live it! Then get on to the next one so your failures don’t consume you. Have fun searching. Let your dating escapades become the target of jokes for your friends. Entertain them with style!

    Love, Loss and Awakening
    Dennis P. Freed

    List $ 12.95
    88 pages, trade softcover, also available in ebook version
    ISBN 978-0-9971916-1-5
    Tolawaken Press

    The death of a loved one is devastating, and can leave us questioning our new path. Will I ever want to find love again, and if so, how do I find it? What’s appropriate behavior for a widowed fifty-four-year-old? Should I explore dating sites? Meet women in bars? Rely on introductions from friends? The questions far outnumber the answers. In Love, Loss and Awakening, Dennis Freed shares his experiences and his journey to new love and the rediscovery of happiness.

    For more information, visit www.LoveLossandAwakening.com

    About the Author
    Dennis P. Freed is a native of Brooklyn, New York, and, from age three, grew up in Oceanside, Long Island, where he later raised his family. He earned a BS in Civil Engineering at the University of Rhode Island. After a stint as a structural engineer, he entered the Construction Management and Development profession in New York City, where he has led teams to construct and develop more than sixty-five buildings. Also an associate professor at Pratt University in New York, he teaches Construction Management to architecture students.

    What People Are Saying

    “Love, Loss, and Awakening is an engaging story of how one man bounces back after losing the love of his life. It is an ode to the power of being in relationship, especially when faced with incredibly difficult and heartbreaking loss. And it is with much humor that Dennis Freed takes the reader on a journey to find what we are all looking for to be joyous and fulfilled in relationship.”
    —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., Creators of Imago Therapy and authors of Getting the Love You Want

    “This is a story of digging deep after loss, finding that being with another is worth the risk, and staying open to lessons both human and Divine. At times an excruciating memoir of living with cancer, at others, a combination of ‘How To’ and, more useful, ‘How NOT To’ of middle-aged dating. Those who have loved deeply will be reminded of what they have or have lost; for others, it’s the promise of how good a relationship can be. The book has a happy ending, yet acknowledges that seeking love must always include a willingness to lose again.”
    —Cynthia Wall, LCSW, author of The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships

    “Get ready to cry, laugh, cringe, and howl with wonder and delight as you go through Dennis Freed's amazing experiences after the loss of his wife. He offers heartfelt real-life insights on how to cope with the despair and overcome the pain so you can face the world and find love and happiness anew.”
    —Paul J. Krupin, author of Words People Love to Hear Simple Verbal Recipes for Making the People Around You Feel Good


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    12 Reasons Your Marriage is Miserable

    By Steve Siebold


    It was the happiest day of your life. You publically proclaimed your vows to your love in front of friends and family and promised to honor them till death do you part. But along the way something happened. Over the years you drifted apart, became interested in different things, and that once solid relationship started crumbling to the ground. Is it possible to save your marriage?

    Here are 12 reasons your marriage is miserable and what you can do to fix it.

    1. You’re Bored
    Being around the same person 24/7, depending on the relationship, can lead to boredom. If you ate the same food every day and night the same thing might occur. The answer may be to stop spending so much time together. Get out and make some new friends, start a new hobby or take up a new sport. Being bored is a choice, and so is overcoming it.

    2. You’ve Stopped Trying
    You work hard, play hard and take care of business, but you’ve stopped trying to be an attentive, attractive spouse. You’ve allowed complacency to take over and fallen victim to the mindset of marital mediocrity. The solution is to start engaging with your spouse before someone else beats you to it.

    3. You’ve Changed
    You’re not the same person you were when you got married and neither is your spouse. You’ve both grown and evolved, and not always in the same direction. You like to hit the town on Saturday night and she likes to knit by the fire. Your savior may be finding common ground wherever you can and building on that before you end up living separate lives.

    4. You’re Too Comfortable
    You’ve been together forever and forgotten what attracted you in the first place. You wear floppy shirts and baggy pants around the house and you’ve haven’t put on makeup since Reagan was in the White House. Maybe it’s time to invest in a new wardrobe that doesn’t resemble anything seen on the Golden Girls or Gunsmoke.

    5. Your Kids Have Taken Over
    You’ve fallen into the parent trap of allowing your kids to run your life and ruin your marriage. Some couples thrive in this environment while others struggle. The answer is to make time to be lovers, not just parents. This takes time most parents claim not to have, but so does getting divorced. Invest your time in the relationship or you’ll end up investing it in lawyers.

    6. You’re Courting Your Own Mortality
    You’re getting older and wondering if your best days are behind you. Your marriage is boring and you’re looking around to see if there’s a way to fix it or find someone new. One strategy is to see if you’re the problem. Look in the mirror and see if a boring person stares back at you. If so, make a decision to create some excitement in your life. If you decide that your spouse is the problem, maybe it’s time to have a heart-to-heart around how you’ll spend the remaining years of your life.

    7. You’re Cheating
    You’re having sex with someone else because it’s fun and it makes you feel alive, and you’re justifying it by telling yourself you deserve it. This time bomb threatens to destroy your relationship. It’s time to start communicating with your spouse on how you can repair your relationship before the bomb explodes and everyone gets hurt.

    8. You’re Out of Stories
    You’ve heard of all of each other’s stories and you have nothing left to talk about. You’re tired of hearing the same tales and even more tired of repeating your own. The answer may be to plan a big adventure together to create some new stories. Start a new business, learn a language or develop a new skill together. Your new stories may reignite your passion.

    9. The Sex Sucks
    You’re either not compatible, bored in bed or no longer attracted. The bottom line is you’re both missing out on one of the great experiences of life. Volumes have been written on how to spice up your sex life, and many of these strategies work. Your best bet is to try them out and see if you can rekindle the lust.

    10. You’re Broke
    You spend a substantial amount of time fighting about money and it’s breaking you apart. You’re a big spender and she likes to save. You had to have that big house while she wanted to stay in the condo. The kid’s activities, expenses and college funds eat the family’s discretionary cash and you’re getting deeper in debt. The solution might be to find common ground and join forces to manage the issue minus the conflict.

    11. You’ve put on the pounds
    The last time you exercised regularly was when you bought the Richard Simmons belly-buster on an infomercial during the cold war, and you never met a doughnut you didn’t like. Not taking care of yourself sends a message to your spouse that you don’t care anymore. Try cutting the carbs, trimming the fat and hiking to the gym.

    12. You’re Too Familiar
    Just the act of being in the same physical space as someone else for an extended period of time is enough to breed overfamiliarity, which sometimes leads to resentment, frustration and even contempt. We’ve all heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this could be a potential solution to the problem. Go on a vacation by yourself or with friends without your spouse and see how it impacts your relationship.

    The takeaway
    If things aren’t how they used to be, don’t despair. Depending on the situation, sometimes it’s as easy as making a few small changes in your relationship. Other times it’s more involved and requires professional help. Either way, if the marriage is important to both of you, it’s definitely worth fighting for.

    Steve Siebold is author of 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of The World Class, and an expert in the field of psychological performance and mental toughness training. He’s studied the beliefs, behaviors and thought processes of top performers for more than 30 years. www.mentaltoughnesssecrets.com

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    Would your marriage survive through Borderline Personality Disorder?


    COLUMBUS, Ohio – To many Americans, mental illness seems like a distant problem. It would shock them to hear that, according to a 2008 study, the lifetime prevalence for borderline personality disorder is 5.9 percent.

    This caustic and destructive disorder quickly threw author Nicholas E. Cleveland’s life into disarray when he met his second wife. What started with intense physical and emotional connection turned into a “Fatal Attraction” tale, with Cleveland forcing his wife to seek psychiatric help.

    Cleveland’s story is offered candidly in his new book, “From Happiness to Tragedy; to Bliss on the Borderline.” It is a close examination of life, love and loss from the perspective of a man who has been through a rollercoaster of joy and tragedy.

    “Life can change in an instant,” Cleveland said. “I was happily married to my first wife when she suddenly and tragically died. When I met my second wife a year later, what began with beauty quickly deteriorated due to a seldom-discussed mental disorder.”

    As a reflection on love, mental health, the hero complex, and depression over the loss of a loved one, “From Happiness to Tragedy; to Bliss on the Borderline” is Cleveland’s memoir and attempt to disentangle tragic love and mental health.

    About the author
    Nicholas E. Cleveland is Chair of Information Technology at a major technical college, and has a masters in business, an associates in commerce in computer operations as well as a bachelor of arts in history, philosophy, and education. He was happily married for twenty-seven years until his first wife died, leaving him with his seven-year-old son. A year later, he re-married. Then, a second period of grieving was to begin.

    “From Happiness to Tragedy; to Bliss on the Borderline”

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    Valet Storage Service – Make Room for Marriage

    Tips for newlyweds on the verge of merge.


    Host a White Elephant Party with a Twist: Surely you’ve heard of a White Elephant Party, but here’s the twist – guests need not bring anything except for some room in the car to haul off some of your stuff! Instead of bringing gifts, your friends can choose one or two of your pre-designated items to take home. Then, let the swapping begin! Make sure to set-up some basic rules such as how many times an item may be taken, etc. Once the rules are explained, let the mayhem and laughter ensue! Everyone will have a blast and you will make some room for all of your new goodies.

    Make a Charity Box: Make a sweep of your place and gather up all of your and your significant others’ old and unneeded things. Donate them to a charitable organization such as Goodwill, Housing Works, or the Salvation Army. Not only will you make room for new items, but you’ll also help others in need.

    Storage (at your Service): Consider storing your extra belongings with a valet storage service, such as Box Butler (NY), Closetbox (CO), and SpaceWays (IL). These companies are much easier to use and more efficient than self-storage. At Box Butler, we’ll pick up and deliver from your home or office – so you can avoid lugging things around. And when you want your belongings back, your personal butler (who’s available seven days per week) will deliver them to you within 36 hours of scheduling the delivery. An additional perk – you can rest easy with Box Butler as we have our own warehouses, and utilize no third party partners, so your belongings are safe and secure.

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    MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT

    Hit Docu-series Returns Tuesday, March 17 at 9pm ET on A&E


    “Married at First Sight” is an extreme social experiment that follows six brave singles yearning for a life-long partnership as they agree to a provocative proposal: getting legally married to a complete stranger the moment they first meet. Four specialists – sexologist, Dr. Logan Levkoff; psychologist, Dr. Joseph Cilona; sociologist, Dr. Pepper Schwartz; and spiritual advisor, Greg Epstein – create what they believe are three perfect couples, based on scientific matchmaking. The couples will not meet until they walk down the aisle and see each other face-to-face, for the first time, at the altar. Over the course of several weeks, episodes capture each couple’s journey as they go from wedding, to honeymoon, to early nesting, to the daily struggle of working on their marriage. After several weeks together, each couple must make a decision: do they remain together or decide to divorce?

    Thirteen episodes will premiere on Tuesday, March 17 at 9pm ET on A&E, beginning with a two-hour season opener. One-hour episodes will follow Tuesday’s at 9pm ET thereafter, culminating with a two-hour series finale. To kick off the season 2 premiere of Married At First Sight, A&E Network is offering up a one-of-a-kind chance for viewers to find "the one." Using the matchmaking science behind the series, singles can now take the "Matched At First Sight" questionnaire - crafted by the show's matchmaking experts to pair the most compatible singles.Those matched will get to meet in-person at an exclusive event on March 12, and the most compatible couple will then be whisked away to an island escape to put their match to the test on the "Ultimate First Date."

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    Real Couples Reveal the 101 Secrets to a Happy Marriage


    Real Couples Reveal the 101 Secrets to a Happy Marriage (Nashville, Tenn.) – On average, 6,200 people get married each day in the United States. In the months leading up to their big day, those people most likely ask friends, relatives, co-workers, and even strangers for advice. Everyone wants to know the secrets to a happy and successful marriage.

     101 Secrets to a Happy Marriage



    Real couples who have not only endured, but have enjoyed their marriage share funny, poignant and wise words of advice in 101 Secrets to a Happy Marriage. Whether someone is a newlywed or has been married for years, experiencing intimacy and maintaining open communication takes thought and effort, sometimes even strategic planning.

    101 Secrets to a Happy Marriage. provides compelling anecdotes, thoughts, and words of wisdom with a fun twist for anyone who needs a dose of encouragement and practical steps for making a difference in one of the most important relationships they'll ever experience. Secret 101, for example, is:

    “The secret to a happy marriage for us was when we realized how important it is to embrace marriage as a journey—both the good moments and the more challenging ones. Every action and reaction we share as husband and wife, every moment we experience in marriage is a brushstroke of colorful paint smeared across the canvas of life. We are creating a beautiful masterpiece of art, of love, of marriage. Every shade of color is valuable, the dark and the light, every moment we encounter, every tear, and every laugh. Marriage is a beautiful journey.”

    -Aaron & Jennifer Smith, author of The Unveiled Wife, married 7 years Whether a couple is just starting off together or has been married for years, this book will help infuse more love, joy, friendship, and intimacy into their relationship.

    Thomas Nelson Publishers, part of HarperCollins Christian Publishing, is a world-leading provider of Christian content and has been providing readers with quality inspirational product for more than 200 years. The publishing group provides multiple formats of award-winning Bibles, books, gift books, cookbooks, curriculum and digital content, with distribution of its products in more than 100 countries. Thomas Nelson is headquartered in Nashville, Tenn., with additional offices in Plano, Texas. For additional information, please visit www.harpercollinschristian.com.

    101 Secrets to a Happy Marriage
    Thomas Nelson
    Hardcover
    On-Sale Date: January 20, 2015
    ISBN-13: 9780718030483
    Price: $9.99

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    The New Marriage Gap Between Rich and Poor


    Documenting two centuries of work and family trends, Labor’s Love Lost examines how:

    · The male-breadwinner family is a historical anomaly—not the American norm: Despite its outsized place in the American imagination, the idea of the middle class male-breadwinner family is an anomaly in American history.

    · Economic inequality and the marriage gap go hand-in-hand: Cherlin documents how the marriage gap between the well-to-do and working-class Americans expands during times of high income inequality, drawing new connections between the present day and the “Gilded Age” of the late nineteenth century.

    · American children experience the highest rates of family turnover in the developed world: Large numbers of American children today live with single parents or with parents in cohabitating unions of short duration and high breakup rates. As a result, American children experience parents, parents’ partners, and stepparents moving in and out of their households far more than in other developed countries.

    · High school-educated Americans raise children in patterns more similar to high-school dropouts than college graduates: The percentage of children who are aren’t living with two biological parents has increased sharply among the moderately-educated. It is now common for high-school-educated women to have at least one child outside of marriage.

    · African American employment and family trends are distinct from the marriage gap among whites: As African American men did not fully share in the wage gains of the post-war period, Cherlin traces how marriage rates among African Americans did not rise as high as whites during the 1950s and 1960s, and how they have fallen further in the most recent period.

    · New educational and labor market policies are needed to stabilize working-class families: Cherlin argues that the U.S. must improve the educational opportunities for working-class children, including placing greater emphasis on apprenticeships and internships as pathways to steady employment for high school graduates—rather than promoting college education for all. In addition, he argues that labor market interventions—such as subsidizing low wages through tax credits and raising the minimum wage—are needed to foster stability.

    ABOUT THE RUSSELL SAGE FOUNDATION
    The Russell Sage Foundation is the principal American Foundation devoted exclusively to research in the social sciences. The Foundation is dedicated to strengthening the methods, data, and theoretical core of the social sciences as a means of improving social policies. The Foundation is a research center for a select group of Visiting Scholars each year, a funding source for studies by scholars at other academic and research institutions, and an active member of the nation's social science community. The Foundation also publishes, under its own imprint, the books that derive from the work of its grantees and Visiting Scholars.

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    10 Tips for Newlyweds on Combining Finances


    From sharing bank accounts, to setting financial goals, to making sure one has enough insurance, there’s a lot to discuss. Because of this, is important newlyweds instill some key financial habits to ensure their marriage is successful from the start.

    Ric Edelman, founder and CEO of Edelman Financial Services has 10 Tips for Newlyweds on Combining Finances:

    1. Don’t wait to save
    2. Say goodbye to separate checkbooks
    3. Make your spouse your beneficiary
    4. Discuss any outstanding debt now
    5. Figure out where your money is going
    6. Create ground rules for spending
    7. Prioritize purchases
    8. Consolidate credit cards
    9. Protect each other – buy life insurance
    10. Organize documents in one place

    About Ric Edelman
    Ric Edelman, founder and CEO of Edelman Financial Services, has been ranked the #1 Independent Financial Advisor in the nation by Barron’s three times. His commitment to teaching consumers about personal finance has established him as a popular and trusted financial professional in the U.S. A #1 New York Times best-selling author, Edelman’s seven books have collectively sold more than one million copies and have been translated into several languages. His published his eighth book, The Truth about Retirement Plans and IRAs, in April 2014. He also hosts his own award-winning radio show, The Truth About Money with Ric Edelman, which attracts more than one million listeners weekly. In addition to being acclaimed public speaker, Edelman frequently provides his expertise to major national media, including CBS, FOX, CNN, CNBC, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Family Circle, Reader’s Digest and many more. For more information, visit www.edelmanfinancial.com.

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    Partners in Love and Business Travel Road to Success


    - Couple Offers Tips for Love and Happiness (Hint: Fun Matters) -

    Barack and Michelle do it. Brad and Angelina do it. John and Yoko did it. How?

    As the divorce rate hovers near an estimated 50 percent in the United States, many blame career stress as a major cause of separations. But somehow some couples grow stronger, especially when they work together. One couple who have worked together for nearly a decade in the stressful world of theater, producing Off-Broadway plays, has decided to share their secrets.

    “In part, it is because we work together that our bond has strengthened after 10 years of marriage,” says Jamillah Lamb, co-author along with her husband, David, of Perfect Combination: Seven Key Ingredients to Happily Living & Loving Together (www.acoupleoflambs.com).

    Jamillah & David Lamb
    Jamillah & David Lamb
    The couple has worked together professionally in their stage company, Between The Lines Productions, Inc., for nine years. But the Lambs say even couples who aren’t business partners are working together every day; because being in any relationship requires negotiating, compromising, and decision-making. Just think about the last time you had to decide whose mother’s house you were going to for Christmas or where you were going to go for vacation or even which movie you were going to see last weekend.

    “We get more opportunity to grow together because, between home and work, we’re making 100 decisions a day instead of 10,” Jamillah says.

    The couple live by their guiding rule, “Love like kids, act like adults.”

    “That means to love freely and completely, without a fortress around your heart, and behave responsibly,” David says.

    A crucial ingredient for any successful marriage is friendship, the Lambs say. Here are some of their tips:

     • Enjoy life: Some couples won’t go to theme parks until they have children. But letting one’s inner child out to play with their partner’s inner child strengthens a relationship’s bond.

     • Forgive the small stuff: No one is always right, and no one wants to be around someone who always needs to be right.

     • Appreciate individuality: Everyone needs to have their own identity, including those in a long-term relationship and couples who work together. David enjoys his comic book collection, while Jamillah keeps a library of romance novels.

     • Do not misdirect anger: In psychology, it’s called transference; dumping your bad day on someone else. It is poison for any relationship.

     • Remember your love: Couples may fight, but guard what you say. There’s no need for ugliness even when you disagree.

    Couples need to remember relationships take work, but they can also be a blast of fun, David says. “Love is worth the sacrifice,” they agree. “Today, with stories of celebrity couples walking away after only days of marriage and even more people living as though sacrifice is nearly a curse word, we say: ‘It’s worth the sacrifice.’ For us, it means that we are willing to give up something that we thought was valuable or important for something even more important: love and our happiness.”

    Love is, in part, the acknowledgement and deep appreciation for another human being, Jamillah says. “Couples should never take each other for granted,” she advises. “In love, as in business, everyone wants to be appreciated. The simplest gesture can go a long way to help your significant other feel like they are making a significant contribution to your life, your family, or your business.”

    About David & Jamillah Lamb
    David and Jamillah Lamb have been married for 10 years. They founded and have run Between The Lines Productions, Inc. since 2003. Born and raised in Queens, N.Y., David attended the Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs at Princeton University and New York University School of Law. He is the playwright of “Platanos y Collard Greens.” Jamillah Lamb grew up in the same Chicago neighborhood as first lady Michelle Obama. She earned her master’s degree in public policy at Harvard. Together they wrote Perfect Combination: Seven Key Ingredients to Happily Living & Loving to share what they have learned as successful partners in love and in business.They live in Brooklyn with their daughter.

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