“I've heard there are troubles of more than one kind; some come from ahead, and some come from behind. But I've brought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see; now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”
When life throws a curve ball, you should be able to hit that with grace and ease. Living in a reactive state, instead of a proactive state increases tensions, destroys your ability to breath and handle your business without weakness or fear.
Many of my articles are about relationships and how they impact your life, for better or worse. When you see something that does not make sense, pay attention to what your spirit is telling you.
So many times, we just want what we want when we want it. This leads us down the path of least resistance because that is the way to fool’s gold.
“It looks so shiny and pretty, can I have one too?” Don’t you feel like a 5-year-old when you see something (or someone) looking all shiny and pretty?
Of course, you do, we all do! This is not the time to lose your focus, your wits or your intellect. Last month I advised you to meet some new friends and now you have done so. What is next is called EXTREME VETTING (not trump’s version which only involves Muslims).
Go beyond their FB page, if they don’t have one, why not? Google them to see what comes up under their name. You do have their COMPLETE name and date of birth, don’t you?
Take it step further and put them into your state legal site. In Maryland, it is called CASE SEARCH. Every legal proceeding, civil or criminal can be found with a person’s name. Check it out. Then check it again.
You do want to know what kind of person this is, right? You want to know if they pay their bills, have filed for bankruptcy (not that it matters to the citizen of this stupid country), but that is not you, right?
Criminals need not apply to have an active place in your life. Listen well: I understand that every person deserves a second chance. What I am saying is MOST DON’T. Verifying yourself gives you the knowledge you need to make an informed decision. Yes, they may have told you they had been in jail, but did they mention how many times and for what? There are some things that are deal breakers, like sexual assaults. When you have children, you must be MORE not LESS particular about who you allow around your children and your family.
I used this Dr.Seuss quote because sometimes WE invite trouble in and make it feel at home. Stop and pay attention to what IS, as opposed to how you want things to be.
Thanks for reading. Have a wonderful May!
Michelle D. Smith Bio
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary and spiritual warrior seeking to share awareness with many. She has a spiritual blog and a monthly relationship column on Black Refer.com. She is a 2015 alumnae of Listen To Your Mother Baltimore. Her work has been published in the anthology Mom For The Holidays. Under her company, Angels Here To Help, she published her first channeled work, My Life As A Mermaid as well as an angel calendar for 2017.
Relationships are the fabric of life. Using different niches allow her to reach a variety of people to amuse, entertain and inspire.