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We are fast approaching 2014. The new mayor of New York City (the center of the known universe is what I call it) has been married to a beautiful black woman for a long, long time.
She fully embraces herself as herself. Ladies, not getting into the hair issue AGAIN, but men need to know, understand and be aware that other cultures have always, always found black women BEAUTIFUL. Not just booty sex beautiful, but dating and marrying beautiful.
You know who has spurned those advances? Black women in search of that elusive single black man.
Ask yourself this question – would you prefer to be in a relationship with ANY man who holds you in high regards, appreciates you for all you bring to the table and has no issues what so ever with how you choose to present yourself to the world?
Would you choose to be with a man who thinks in order for them to be the man, you must be less of a woman than you actually are? That the way you choose to dress or wear your hair is actually up for discussion? How little self-worth a man must have to choose who he dates or marries based on what society thinks is attractive as opposed to what is actually attractive, inside AND out.
What are we teaching our children when it is ok to live in a world where a little girl is put out of school because her hair is natural or locked? What are we telling ourselves that we feel we MUST change to have a black man – and for some of us that means any man as long as he is male and black?
It is time – way past time that women appreciate themselves for whom and what they are – in totality. When you are the best you possible, you are like a light shining brightly. But that requires that you love and appreciate exactly who you are, not what society, your mother/father/family or anyone else SAYS you have to be.
That person attracts men of all races like moths to the flame. I just read somewhere that black people should not automatically vote Democrat, that vote should be earned. For 2014, I appending this to restricting yourself to only black men. Love IS. You may miss the love of your life by single mindedly focusing on black males. Black men should also EARN your love and respect, just like anyone else. Stopping offering yourself to those who do not appreciate you!
Why not permit men of other cultures to wine, dine and compliment you – ALL NIGHT LONG? These men are out there. Trust me. Personally, the men I attract have all been Italian, Greek or Persian (used intentionally).
Let yourself RECEIVE all the love you deserve! That should be your motto for 2014. Be willing and OPEN to receiving love in whatever form or color it shows up as. Love is color blind. And it is about time that black women get on board the swirl train!
Have a wonderful, joyous and love filled 2014!
Michelle D. Smith
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary who seeks to share her knowledge with others. Showing how to use both spiritual and social skills in being a better you is her goal. Acknowledging the fact that most are searching for both truth and companionship, she seeks to bridge those "needs" with honesty, humor and creativity. Join her on this quest for the "new". Innovative ways of thinking, nurturing, loving and sharing, creates a new YOU!
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