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|| The Ideal Man
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.
This would be my definition of an ideal man. In fact, Bob Marley would have been my ideal man. Yes, he had lots of girlfriends and children outside his marriage. But he also had an amazing wife who understood her Husband. Rita Marley had two options. Loss this priceless gem of a human by confining him to what society dictated he SHOULD do, or allowing him the freedom to be who he actually was.
"Bob Marley" (February 6, 1945 – May 11, 1981) Happy Birthday Bob Marley!
It worked out well for all of us. Imagine a restrained and restricted Bob Marley, lost in a world of ganja, with no will to write or perform. Please do not think I am advocating an open marriage, I am NOT.
What I am saying is be HONEST with yourself about WHO you are with, WHY you are with them and if YOU have what it takes to go the distance. Bob Marley said himself he would never divorce his wife. He truly loved her. He just was not able to control his desires to be with other women. It was not done behind her back. She knew about these women and also was the person he called when he needed to be left alone. She cleared out his space, giving him peace of mind to be free to unleash his creative genius.
We will never know if this would have continued working, but it worked until his death. Even after his death, this gracious and open hearted woman invited every woman who had a child by her husband to BRING them to her. She made sure ALL were taken care of. That is a woman who is confident, generous and honest. Her integrity made her a shero. How many women would have even made this effort? I know of NONE.
So, getting back to the quote. The man I am currently considering is all of these things to me. He makes me laugh and he challenges me to think outside the box. Should I decide that this is the man I have been waiting for, I will go for it with no holds barred. He is quite a bit younger than I am with a successful business and wonderful work ethic. No baby mama drama either. BONUS!
We are all searching for an ideal man or woman. But in order to find that person, you must be crystal clear within yourself about yourself. Who are you? What are your goals, your hopes, dreams and fears? This can only occur when you are candid with yourself. Is there is space in your heart that is open and available? When you can hold that space sacred, love will soon enter – to stay. It won’t always be easy, but having someone who gets YOU is always, in All Ways worth the effort. ALWAYS!
By all means, continue your search for a love that is worthy of your time, your heart, your spirit. Because only by finding and defining that “love” for you, will it be made available. Only by truly being honest with your “self” will you actually recognize it when it finally makes an appearance.
Have a Joyous February! Happy Valentine’s Day!
Bob Marley – ONE LOVE!
Michelle D. Smith
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary who seeks to share her knowledge with others. Showing how to use both spiritual and social skills in being a better you is her goal. Acknowledging the fact that most are searching for both truth and companionship, she seeks to bridge those "needs" with honesty, humor and creativity. Join her on this quest for the "new". Innovative ways of thinking, nurturing, loving and sharing, creates a new YOU!
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