While I do not often intrelap my Spiritul blog with my Relationship site, this topic has come up twice in one week. Maybe, just MAYBE there are a few of you who can hear the message and grow from it
There are many “spiritual” people who feel that as long as you use LOVE as your guide, things will never, ever go wrong in your life. I beg to differ. While at your BEST you can be kind, loving, gracious and giving, personal relationships tend to bring out the very worst of us- in me and in you. So what is a girl to do?
For this post, I am going to use first person. It will be easier for me to write and easier for you to read.
This week, I had TWO, yes 2 opportunities to examine my core beliefs regarding spirituality, relationships and the “each person is a mirror of me” thing. First and foremost, every person I meet is NOT a mirror of me. Not the me I love, nor the me I dislike. Each person I meet has their own spiritual lessons to learn. While it may be true that I fit into their “lessons” or they fit into mine, that does not, I repeat NOT make their issues MY ISSUES.
This message continues on Your Spiritual Garden! Thanks for reading.
The Power of Your Name
While this is for both ladies and gentlemen, the information shared offers an explanation for a now common occurrence.
Getting married is a major step in any relationship. How that “next move” will impact your future depends on many things, such as age, education and personal accomplishments.
Many women are electing to retain their maiden name as their middle name and adding their husband’s name. This is a wise choice spiritually and legally. I will tell you why.
Getting married is about both combining and expanding. What we as women bring to the marriage, we should bring 100%. This is a partnership, not a 50/50 partnership, but a 100/100 percent partnership. You are bringing your all (or should be) and so is your intended husband.
To bring your all, you should both know and love exactly who you are. You are a separate entity from your husband. Together you can be publically called Mr. and Mrs. but in reality; you should ADD your husband’s name to your own.
This works on several levels. Legally, you have not “changed” your name, you added another name. Personally, I did not change my taxes, my social security, banking or drivers license.
My husband died. Not divorced which is a choice, he died. Had I changed all of my”stuff”, it would have cost me money to go back to my maiden name. As it was, I simply informed all who needed to know that I was no longer using Billups and please remove it from my paperwork.
Spiritually, your given name has a vibration, a vibration that sets the path for your spiritual journey for this lifetime. Yes, there are times when changing your name could be for the better. My suggestion is don’t guess, use the tool of numerology!
This is a science I have studied. For this marriage, I actually considered changing my name. That was until I looked at the numbers. It appears that giving up my “self”, would change my vibration on a spiritual level. Was it that bad? No, it wasn’t. BUT the person described was not Me. It kind of set me back for a few minutes. Here I was thinking this is a good thing, a compromise from my first response which was I would change nothing. However, looking at the numbers for someone solid, steadfast, dependable, the only one that applies to me is dependable.
I am excitable, bubbly, outgoing, creative and every changing. That is the real me. It is also the Me my intended fell in love with, the me that he wants to be with.
So, ladies do yourself a favor and really check this out before hand. You too may decide that this is the best path for both of you. The younger you are, the less of a difference it could make. Notice I said could, for some women mature earlier than others. Gentlemen, this is not about you in anyway. No need for your ego to be bruised. Read the last paragraph. You too, have a vested interest in keeping the lady you love the same woman she was when she meet you. Be assured that you will get that woman and even more!
Michelle D. Smith
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary and spiritual warrior seeking to share awareness with many. She uses words as her sword and the love and grace of God as her shield. She has a spiritual blog in which to enlighten and uplift. She is a soon to be published author and a monthly relationship column on Black Refer.com. The different niches for each allow her to reach a variety of people to amuse, entertain and inspire.
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