Ruby Dee and Ossie Davis
I have to admit finding out my Favorite couple of all times explored an open marriage was surprising but also refreshing. Being candid about the chemical responses one has to another person is HONEST. What a person decides to do with that response is personal and can be empowering or devastating.
I 100% agree that lies and deceptions can kill the strongest relationship. I also know that if you tell a person they can have that which they desire, providing they are honest and discreet, makes the obvious thrill just a little more mundane. Either way – they did it their way and their love is a testament to what a relationship can and should be.
Ruby Dee quotes:
Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard
My love of Paul Newman goes back to my teens. That man makes my whole body throb. He was gorgeous to look at, but as time would tell, he was also an amazing HUMAN. He was giver and optimist from the heart. I never understood his marriage to Joanne Woodard until I saw Blues in Paris, 1961 (with Sidney Poitier and a stunningly young Diahann Carroll). In that movie, I saw the relationship that would be what dreams are made of.
Here a few quotes that are the basis of a great relationship, and an even better marriage. I suggest those of you who feel you HAVE to be attached at the hip to pay attention!
Quotes about the Marriage of Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman:
Joanne: "From the beginning, Paul and I had an advantage: we were good friends before we were lovers. I mean, we really liked each other. We could talk to each other. We could talk to each other, we could tell each other anything without fear of ridicule or rejection. There was trust."
Source: Shawn Levy. Paul Newman: A Life. 2010. pg. 88.
Joanne's description of being married Paul:
"Being married to the most considerate, romantic man".
Source: "Paul Newman and wife Joanne celebrate 50 years of marriage." HelloMagazine.com. 1/29/2008.
My favorite quote from ANY husband!
Paul on why he never was unfaithful to Joanne: "Why fool around with hamburger when you have steak at home?"
Gentlemen, are YOU listening?
Nick and Marily Mosby
I have got to be honest here. I am extremely biased in favor of this young power couple. Nick Mosby is a Baltimore City Councilman and Marilyn Mosby upset the last State’s Attorney by running ON the platform of reducing police harrassement and brutality. I know I am preaching to the choir regarding the police motto of Brutalize and Terrorize as opposed to Protect and Serve, but like most people I can ONLY comment on what I have personally WITNESSED. Just saying…
I have seen this couple out and this man loves and adores his wife. It is quite refreshing to have a couple commit to living in the city – they don’t live far from Penn-North. I have also seen Madame State’s Attorney by herself (and her bodyguard). She is soft spoken, humble and real. Pray for this couple, please. This is one of the articles I found on them. Made me like them even more!
Read this article to the very end. It is exactly what I have been saying!
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie Pitt
I would be remiss if I excluded 2 of my favorite actors. I feel about Brad Pitt the way I felt about Paul Newman. In fact, no one had affected me like that until I saw Legends of the Falls and was completely slain. While I love my handsome black men and seldom fall for blond men, this man is so gorgeous that it defies logic. I saw him on Oprah and he told how he had been brought up. His mom told him as a “pretty boy” he could have anything he wanted. However, her expectations were that he do something to better the world. He has delivered and will continue to deliver with his perfect mate, Angelina Jolie Pitt.
Brad Pitt Charity Work. Imagine, living in New Orleans and having Brad Pitt help build houses for those who lost all they had. That is giving in all caps! Here is a list of all his charitable giving.
Angelina Jolie Pitt Charity Work
My first introduction (outside of movies) to this powerhouse was an interview. She was a Goodwill Ambassador for the United Nations Refugee Agency and she was giving an interview in some poverty stricken part of our planet. What struck me as I listened to her was how down to earth she sounded and how at ease she appeared. She had a baby on her lap, and she was explaining why it was important that WE care about other people.
Ms. Angelina, like her husband has an amazing grace, elegance and beauty seldom seen in conjunction with the art of giving. While we have many stars, musicians and artists who give back generously, I am bringing this couple to your attention because their individual beliefs is why their marriage is so strong. It would break my heart if they ever divorced. Both she and her husband feel it is their duty to give back. In fact, ALL my couples had this in common.
Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee where champions for civil rights. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard were champions for Human rights. Nick and Marilyn Mosby are champions and fighters for justice AND peace, right here in Baltimore. Angelina and Brad each have their own charities and of course, a joint charity, the Jolie Pitt foundation.
What all these individuals have in common is they found the person they were meant to be with. While Brad was married to Jennifer Aniston when Mr. and Mrs. Smith was filmed, she should have seen that shit coming and packed his bags. I told all who would listen that his marriage was OVER. Seems I was right.
Love is about the other person. It is not about you. When I tell you “I Love YOU” I mean exactly that. Should you decide another person will make you happier, who am I to stand in your way, regardless of whether I have a ring on my finger or not. Please proceed…
Wrapping this up, I hope you took these articles in the spirit in which they were offered. At my age, I care little for what others think about me, I am entitled to my beliefs. However, my believe about being married or in a long term, loving relationship is the best relationships make you a better person. If it doesn’t, they why bother? Be patient, work on yourself, your goals, hopes and dreams. You mate is coming. Will you be ready when they show up?
Michelle D. Smith
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary and spiritual warrior seeking to share awareness with many. She uses words as her sword and the love and grace of God as her shield. She has a spiritual blog in which to enlighten and uplift. She is a soon to be published author and a monthly relationship column on Black Refer.com. The different niches for each allow her to reach a variety of people to amuse, entertain and inspire.
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