With all the relationship advice I have shared, respect has never been on my list. In fact, I never even THOUGHT about how important respect is for a relationship to grow and thrive.
I was forced to attended a wedding a few weeks ago. Helping out a sista friend with bartending (all volunteer). I find out the bride was good friends with my God son, so that made the task a little better.
I am no wedding aficionado. If given my preference between spending a small fortune on one day, buying real estate or taking that month long trip to the Mediterranean I have long dreamed of; Well letís say the one day would lose. Add in my total skepticism and you see why I donít do weddings. I only allow for families. MY family.
However, the wedding vows they shared were amazing. So amazing I advised my girlfriend to track them down, individually and beat their asses if they ever divorce.
The bride offered how much she respected her future husband. Instantly, I could see the break down of every relationship I ever had. The ones I wanted to keep and the ones that needed to end.
It was the lack of respect. Either they had no respect for me or I had none for them. I have respected a few men who I have been in long term relationships with. Okay, maybe only two.
I respected my husband until his actions created the disrespectful environment we existed in until his death. I was totally, completely and irrevocably disrespectful. In all times and all ways.
While I never thought about respect as a characteristic of an evolving, growing and thriving relationship; it must exist for the relationship to survive.
Both partners should acknowledge how important respect for themselves, each other and the relationship is. It will keep you together as friends long after the passions cool.
Guess I am never too old to learn. I hope this message resonates with you and gives you yet another foundational leg for a wonderful relationship.
Have an amazing April!
Michelle D. Smith
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary and spiritual warrior seeking to share awareness with many. She uses words as her sword and the love and grace of God as her shield. She has a spiritual blog in which to enlighten and uplift. She is a soon to be published author and a monthly relationship column on Black Refer.com. The different niches for each allow her to reach a variety of people to amuse, entertain and inspire.
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