“Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from CHEAP People!”
Who would have believed a Warren Buffet quote could be applied to relationships. I have always had issues with cheap men. Not because I am a gold digger, but I like people, men in particular who have a generous spirit. The kind of spirit that doesn’t count pennies.
Being cheap is like a spiritual disease. You cannot possibly give what you don’t have and you cannot share anything you feel should have a price attached. Giving opens your heart and your mind. When you are cheap there are many “things” you will not have the capacity to give or share.
A few of these are forgiveness, tolerance and space to allow others to be themselves. Cheapness is about controlling money in the most obvious way, but it also is about controlling what you give, who you give it to, and most importantly, what you feel entitled to take.
A balanced relationship is about both give and take. When your spirit is tight, all you can offer is the taking of – whatever is offered with no intent to reciprocate.
Do not let others diminish your light, your open heart and your spirit. Cheap people are CHEAP. They wear cheap clothes, they don’t spend money on themselves, their cars or their homes.
It is true that some people don’t have funds for needed upgrades, repairs or shopping sprees. I am on a budget myself. But I never allow myself to shortchange ME. Beware of people who shortchange themselves because they will never honor you, care for you or take care of you the way you deserve. They do not have the capacity. They can be really “nice” people, but cheap is bone deep. It does not fade with age or improve with knowledge. It survives and you want a relationship that thrives.
Michelle D. Smith
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary and spiritual warrior seeking to share awareness with many. She uses words as her sword and the love and grace of God as her shield. She has a spiritual blog in which to enlighten and uplift. She is a soon to be published author and a monthly relationship column on Black Refer.com. The different niches for each allow her to reach a variety of people to amuse, entertain and inspire.
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