“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” – John Holmes
Love is the theme for February. So, what is a person to do if they have no “love” of their own? Read the quote at the top again and read it with comprehension.
Doing for others is an exercise for your heart. It is difficult to immerse yourself in selfless giving and feel pity for yourself at the same time. It just won’t work.
In addition to doing good, you align yourself with all that is right with the world. You allow and open to grace, humor, compassion, passion, joy and love.
Your very openness is required to have that love that you seek, that is also seeking you.
Many of us of a certain age can look back on relationships that we fucked up. Just be honest. For myself, I have had a few gentlemen who would have slayed dragons and shanked anyone who threatened me and my family.
My not being “ready” for that kind of love is why I don’t have them in my life today. While I did marry, I often wonder what would have happened had I selected one of the other men vying for my affections.
Having that conversation with myself enlightened me to what was and was not possible. Sure, I can think all would have been well. However, what I know is I have to be right in my own heart and mind. My being ready is the key to unlock what I am looking for. My willingness to be open to assistance, criticism and praise is crucial for a working relationship.
While I feel that what is seek is much closer than it appears, I know my work is ongoing.
You owe it to yourself, your dreams and hopes to have a reflective conversation with yourself, this month.
Don’t settle for Mr./Ms. Right Now – and block Mr./Ms. Right! Timing helps but being prepared is the best way to move your agenda forward. You don’t want to miss out on a great partner because you have failed to do the work required on you. Your partner may show up, but will you be able to seize the opportunity and not blow it, this time?
Begin by helping others. What we know for sure is under this new administration, the only people being helped will be themselves. The rest of us are on our own. We will need your assistance, passion, energy, ideas and ideals to make it through. Sign up to volunteer today.
Thanks for reading!
Michelle D. Smith Bio
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary and spiritual warrior seeking to share awareness with many. She has a spiritual blog and a monthly relationship column on Black Refer.com. She is a 2015 alumnae of Listen To Your Mother Baltimore. Her work has been published in the anthology Mom For The Holidays. Under her company, Angels Here To Help, she published her first channeled work, My Life As A Mermaid as well as an angel calendar for 2017.
Relationships are the fabric of life. Using different niches allow her to reach a variety of people to amuse, entertain and inspire.