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“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
I love this quote, in fact, it describes me perfectly! I am not saying I am a Marilyn wannbe, but I do appreciate that she tried to hold herself in high esteem, even if she did not always succeed.
We are all “human” with our flaws, ego issues and frailties. In spite of all of this, we each are as flawless as we can be RIGHT THIS SECOND.
With that in mind, isn’t it time you looked for a partner, a mate who can give you all you are willing to give to them? Where is that person who will be willing and able to accept you exactly as you are – in good and bad times?
This quote is a perfect way to keep those thoughts top of mind in your dating adventures. Each new date is another trip into fantasy world. You are showing someone their fantasy and they are showing you yours.
When you consent to let yourself to BE yourself, the rubbish will take care of itself. Most will RUN out of your life. Not because you are not worthy, but because they know they are unworthy of you.
Only the smallest minded and insecure person will attempt to force a fit when none is apparent. Only a tiny person will force themselves to be what they are not, for the sake of a relationship.
I just heard (Inyanla(?) say “If you don’t want to be with YOU, why in the world would anyone else WANT to be with YOU?” Can you imagine a more valid question?
Take me for instance. I am highly excitable and passionate about social justice. I also love my family who is just a loud and rowdy as I can be. But do I give that to someone I just met. No – because I have to consider if the fit is there, if they are or can be compatible.
Why waste time until you find out what is UP? So, after a few dates, they will find out I am not as quiet as I appear, nor docile in any sense of the word.
On the flip side, we might only make it to date one or two. But I remain open and optimistic. In fact, I am considering going younger – WAY Younger!
Bear these things in mind as you build yourself up to endeavor to take the dating world by storm. Believe YOU ROCK and are absolutely Gorgeous. Because you do, you are and you deserve only the Best.
No need to demand, because when you find someone who is worthy, they will WANT you to have the best they have to offer. Real relationships create an environment where you each desire only the best for each other. Keep on keeping on and believe you deserve the very best. YOU DO!
Michelle D. Smith
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary who seeks to share her knowledge with others. Showing how to use both spiritual and social skills in being a better you is her goal. Acknowledging the fact that most are searching for both truth and companionship, she seeks to bridge those "needs" with honesty, humor and creativity. Join her on this quest for the "new". Innovative ways of thinking, nurturing, loving and sharing, creates a new YOU!
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